What Happens in a Male Survivor Support Group?

If the idea of walking into a room (or, for an online group, joining a call) with strangers and talking about sexual abuse feels impossible, that reaction is completely normal, and it's worth knowing what actually happens before deciding whether to try.

Before You Even Join

Reputable groups, including MENd's, have a brief, confidential conversation with you first, not to interrogate or judge you, but to understand what you're looking for and help protect the safety of the group. This isn't a test you can fail.

Inside a Session

Sessions typically involve a settling-in period, some space for conversation with a loose theme where relevant, and closing carefully rather than ending abruptly. Nobody is required to speak. You can listen for as many sessions as you need before saying anything, and that's not avoidance, it's simply your own pace.

You Are Never Made to Recount Details

This is one of the most persistent fears keeping men from ever trying a group like this. You are not expected to describe what happened. You can talk about how life is now, or say nothing at all for weeks. Listening holds as much weight in these spaces as speaking does.

Confidentiality, Honestly Described

Groups maintain confidentiality among participants, but this isn't absolute — safeguarding responsibilities still apply, particularly around risk to children, vulnerable adults, or ongoing danger. A group that promised complete, unconditional confidentiality wouldn't be being honest with you. See our safeguarding information for how this actually works.

MENd Together's Group

Our peer support group runs weekly online, with a confidential intake conversation before joining.

If you are in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, please contact the Samaritans free, any time, on 116 123, or call 999.