Every Tuesday · 7 to 9pm UK time · £10 per week
You don't have to carry this alone.
A confidential space for male survivors of sexual abuse and assault of any kind, at any age, including childhood sexual abuse, rape and other forms of sexual violence. A place to be witnessed by brothers who genuinely understand.
Next session
Tuesday 3 Nov 2026 · 19:00, 21:00
Request a place
Confidential intake. We review every request personally.
£10 per week · pay to confirm, or message us to discuss
£10 per person, per week
Every Tuesday · 7 to 9pm GMT · Online
Pay when you book to confirm your place. If paying isn't possible right now, or you'd like to talk first, message us to discuss.
Before your first session, we'll arrange a short call with you so you know what to expect.
Confidentiality & safety
Confidentiality is the foundation. What's shared in the group stays in the group, and we agree this together every session. The exceptions are safeguarding ones: if what you tell us shows a serious risk to you, to another adult at risk, or to a child, we are required to share that with the appropriate statutory service. Wherever it is safe to do so, we tell you what we are sharing, who with, and why. You can read more in our safeguarding information.
Do I have to tell my story?
No. You set the depth. Some men come and listen for weeks before they speak, and that's not avoidance, it's wisdom. You don't need to recount details, prepare anything, or explain what happened from the start. You can talk about how life is now instead, or simply listen.
Listening holds as much weight here as speaking does. You participate at your own pace, in your own way.
Trauma support for men, in the company of other men
If you're a male survivor of sexual abuse or assault, including childhood sexual abuse, rape or other forms of sexual violence, you've probably spent a long time feeling like the only one. Most men do. We grew up being told to get on with it. We learned to manage. We built lives, careers, families, and we kept the worst of it locked somewhere we didn't have to look.
Then, often years later, it surfaces. In a relationship that won't quite work. In anger that arrives out of nowhere. In numbness. In drinking too much. In a low hum of shame that's hard to name. In bodies that won't relax. In a sense that something is wrong, but no language for what.
This group exists for that. For the part of you that already knows what happened, even if you've never said it out loud. It's a confidential, trauma-informed space, held weekly online, where you can sit with other men who understand without you having to explain.
You can come as you are. You don't need the right words. You don't need to have it figured out. You just need to be willing to be in the room. The work happens in the being there.
Why peer support matters
The thing that breaks the silence is hearing another man speak it first
Trauma keeps you isolated. That's part of how it works. It tells you that what happened was your fault, that you're broken, that no one will understand, that you should keep it down. Therapy can help. Reading helps. But for many male survivors, the deepest shift comes from being in a room with other men who say the unsayable, and survive it.
That's what this group offers. Not a fix. Not a programme. The simple, profound experience of being witnessed by men who genuinely know. That's where the loneliness starts to lift.
This might be right for you if you're
Finding your way
Navigating the effects of sexual abuse or assault, including childhood sexual abuse
Looking for a safe space to be heard
Wanting a gentle first step toward understanding what happened
Already in therapy and wanting additional connection
Not yet ready for therapy but needing to know you're not alone
Before joining, we ask to have a brief, no-pressure conversation with you. To honour the safety of the space and make sure it feels right for you.
What this space offers
What peer support looks like here
You're not alone in this
Sit with men who truly understand what you've been through.
Led by lived experience
Facilitated by men who have walked this path themselves.
No need to explain
No need to justify, minimise, or make sense of your past.
Safety & respect
Clear boundaries and consistent structure to support you.
What this is
- Peer support
- Male-only
- Facilitated
- Confidential within stated boundaries
- Trauma-informed
- Lived-experience-informed
- Regular connection
- A place to talk or listen
What it isn't
- Therapy
- Counselling
- Psychiatric treatment
- A diagnostic service
- Crisis support
- A replacement for specialist medical or mental-health care
Coming up next
Find your next way in
Your next opportunity to connect, talk, learn, and be part of the MENd Together community.
Starts
Online Peer Support Group
A confidential online peer support group for male survivors of CSA and childhood trauma.
- Tuesday 3 November
- 7:00pm
- Online
- Open to all men
- £10 per person, per week
First time? You're welcome, no experience needed, and you're free to just listen.
FAQ
Questions men ask before joining
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What Peer Support actually is
Volunteer-led. Built with men who've walked this path. We'd rather be clear than oversell, so here's what to expect, and what to do if it isn't right for you.
A volunteer-facilitated group for male survivors of sexual abuse and assault, including childhood sexual abuse, rape and other forms of sexual violence, a place to be heard, not fixed, alongside men who get it.
It isn't therapy, crisis care, or a clinical service. We hold space; we don't diagnose or treat.
Want an in-person gathering? Try the Men's CircleThe first quiet step is a short, confidential form and a £10 payment, no account needed. Or message us to discuss first. Before your first session, we'll arrange a short call with you.
£10 per week · pay to confirm, or message us to discuss
Every Tuesday · 7 to 9pm UK time · Online · £10 per week
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