Safety, trust & emotional care

    How we keep men safe.

    Safety here isn't a checklist on a wall. It's how we hold the room — quietly, consistently, with clear boundaries and human warmth.

    Our principles

    Six things that shape every session.

    Trauma-informed by design

    We follow trauma-informed principles in every session — safety, choice, collaboration, trust, and lived-experience leadership. No one is pushed past where they're ready to go.

    Sober attendance

    We warmly welcome men in recovery. We ask everyone to attend sessions sober and able to engage safely, so the space stays grounded for the whole group.

    Respect & confidentiality

    What's shared in the room stays in the room. We hold each other with respect, listen without fixing, and never repeat what isn't ours to share.

    Lived-experience facilitation

    Our facilitators have walked through trauma, addiction or recovery themselves. They hold space, not diagnose.

    Data handled with care

    We collect only what we need to support you, store it securely, and never sell or share your details. You can ask us to delete your data at any time.

    Honest signposting

    If MENd Together isn't the right fit for the moment you're in, we'll point you calmly toward services that are.

    In the room

    What we ask of every man who joins.

    These aren't rules to keep you small. They're agreements that keep the space safe enough for every man in it, including you.

    • ·Arrive sober and able to engage safely.
    • ·Speak from your own experience, no advice-giving or fixing.
    • ·Hold what's shared in the room as confidential.
    • ·Look after the man next to you with the same care you'd want.
    • ·Tell a facilitator if something doesn't feel right, we'd rather know.

    If today feels unsafe

    MENd Together is not a crisis or emergency service. If you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call 999. For urgent emotional support, call Samaritans free 24/7 on 116 123, or NHS 111 (option 2).

    More options on our safeguarding & support page.

    Governance

    Held inside a CIC structure.

    MENDTOGETHER CIC is a Community Interest Company. Our purpose, surplus and assets are legally locked into community benefit, and we're accountable to the men we support, not to private shareholders.

    MENd Together is officially registered as MENDTOGETHER CIC, a Community Interest Company that legally protects our community purpose.

    FAQ

    Common questions about how we keep things safe

    Who runs the safeguarding side of MENd Together?

    Safeguarding sits with the founder and lead facilitator. A named safeguarding lead and written safeguarding policy are published on the policies page. Concerns can always be raised via the contact page.

    Are facilitators DBS checked and trained?

    All facilitators holding regulated work are DBS checked and complete trauma-informed practice training.

    What happens if I raise a concern?

    Concerns are taken seriously and held confidentially wherever possible. We'll acknowledge within a few days, talk it through with you, and follow our safeguarding and complaints process. Email info@mendtogether.org.

    Is MENd Together a crisis service?

    No. We're a community wellbeing space. If you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call 999. For urgent mental-health support, call Samaritans on 116 123 or NHS 111 (option 2).

    Questions about safety, suitability or how we hold the work?

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